I believe when I write this, there will be a lot of people disagree with me. But although how much I try to understand and slightly learn Kizomba dance just bit, I still can’t digest it. So, there is still a big no for me 🙂
I know Kizomba dance lately has been a trend in almost any countries which has Salsa/Bachata scene for long time. And by default, it seems people just imply that whoever knows, or dances Salsa/Bachata must know how to dance Kizomba. That bothers me a lot.
I am a DJ, instructor, and owner of a big studio. Whenever there is a tourist coming to my city. After chatting for a while about dancing scenes around the world, I usually reach the point where he/she gives me the lessons about Kizomba:
- How big the communities are.
- It’s the trend, why I don’t promote more of it in our community.
- Why people love Kizomba dance, etc.
I appreciate their passions and their thoughts about it. Honestly, that is too much.
Because Salsa/Bachata are the only two dances I know, so what I write will be based on my knowledges and experiences of Salsa/Bachata and Kizomba. It is biased or not. I don’t know. Some may say so, some may agree with me. But it doesn’t matter much 🙂
Kizomba dance music is a big thump down
Well, let’s take Salsa as an example. Salsa songs are almost unique for every single song, not to mention that there are at least more than 5 styles of Salsa music. When listening to a Salsa song, even with a very soft romantica song, there are still up and down moments with some slowness, breaks, also some climaxes. That is just the flow of 1 song of a style that is usually used for teaching, warming up, beginner practicing, etc. For some hardcore songs or mambo, there are even more flavors and climaxes within the songs.
On the other side, this will be a super subjective and arguable thought from me. Almost all Kizomba dance music has nothing more than a very typical rhythm which are quite boring to listen for more than a few songs in a row. It has only up and down beat (which are the basis of Kizomba music) plus a few other rhythm / sounds. In addition, the paces of the songs are just going like that, regularly, until the end. It has no up and down moment, no climax, nothing but a very constant rhythm through the whole song!
- People will argue this: “Hey, there are also some stops, breaks here and there within the songs. You don’t like Kizomba, so you probably don’t care too much about finding good songs.”
Well, to be honest, I don’t do too much research about Kizomba music. But I have heard enough to reach this conclusion. Why?
Because don’t tell me Kizomba music which has been being played in most festivals is garbage. These should be 70% chances that DJs will play their best collections for the festivals to an extent (because that is what they are paid for!).
Also, even if there are some climaxes/up/down/breaks in the songs. They are just not as variable and colorful as in Salsa and Bachata music.
- Someone will say like: “Ok, but Bachata is the same.”
This, I agree to some degrees, however there will be another post about Bachata and Kizomba. The next point will continue my view in this post.
Kizomba dancing: the dance, the feeling, and the techniques
With Salsa, you can lead in couple. And when there is nice song, the two people can still do some styling, breaks, or they can feel and do something with the climaxes together, as long as they have enough space and the leading skill of the leaders is good enough to not hurt followers. You will have more choices to lead using two arms and two legs.
I haven’t mentioned about the turns from followers, right? Everybody agrees that leading Salsa is the most complicated yet enjoyable in couple dancing, because everytime you dance with a new leader, everytime will be a new experience (good or bad, depends). There likely doesn’t have the same leaders that do exactly the same things. Chances are small but, not likely to happen.
You will want to have look at Eddie Torres Jr. with his social dance 😀
Also, solo in Salsa is the same. Every single dancer has their own ways to feel and interpret the music. That also makes them look awesome from the view of outsiders. And the couples can have joys with their private time (don’t do the solo for too long, it’s not good though). There are endless ways to enjoy when dancing Salsa.
With Bachata dance, either Classic style or Dominican style or Sensual style, there are still enough spaces to utilize hands connection for couple patterns.
- With Dominican Bachata, people can sometimes do footworks to feel the music together.
- While with Sensual Bachata, dancers will be using the followers’ body section to do body movements (just don’t overdo and make it into Zouk).
- For all styles, there needs some understanding of:
- Your partners’ capabilities with hands connection.
- The followers’ feeling.
- Good postures.
- Sensitive feeling when moving followers’ body.
Meanwhile, what Kizomba dancers need to do is utilizing the chest and arm connection almost the whole time. Therefore, most of the time, people lead followers with variety of patterns with legs, chests, arms in Kizomba. And that’s all.
There won’t be any space if the followers somewhat feel insecure. There is also no freedom when one of dancers in the couple wants to feel the music as he/she interprets. These points are what I drawn from what I witnessed.
In addition, the variety of patterns in Kizomba dance is extremely low. I saw more than a dozen time when the same moves are being used by different leaders in different festivals. And I mean it.
I watched so much that I can do on my own without taking any lessons whatsoever. But, of course I choose not to 🙂 because if I want to do well a kind of dance, I want to learn from scratch 😀
Now, back to the point. I saw so much the same moves that sometimes I thought they learned from the same instructors 😀 But of course not, because these people are from different countries! What funny is I saw instructors sometimes did the same things!
Kizomba dance: attitude is the worst
Girls’ intuition are super strong when they guess some fishy guys trying to take advantage of them. Or simply, there are some situations that it’s not suitable to dance closely. For example, maybe the leaders have strong smell or they are too sweaty.
- People will say: “Leaders use some deodorants or perfumes, or at least clean and dry your bodies before inviting and dancing with other people.”
Well, if this is the case, I guess not many of you sweat and somewhat produce strong smell while dancing 🙂
There are lots of times I saw the girls endure the whole song in the typical dance position of Kizomba dance while they don’t like the leaders or the situation that they are in.
- Some may say: “Then she can leave the guy immediately!”
Hold there, that will be discussed in another post. Life is not as easy as you thought 😀
- Dancing Kizomba will help guys to get laid with girls easily.
Personally, THAT bothers me a lot. Ok. Let’s make this clear. Salsa, Bachata also have people that have this mindset. However, the chances of guys that have this mind set is ridiculously high when they dance Kizomba. And that is not I imagine.
In my country, the Kizomba community is so small. However, every time there is a good Kizomba dancer visit, I heard these guys always try to hook up with any girls by dancing Kizomba with these girls. They were successful or not, I don’t know. But my ex-girlfriend experienced this in the past. Not once, but many times.
Friends from overseas, especially from countries that have massive Kizomba dance communities also confirmed this. Yet, the chances for them to be successful in those countries might be a lot less than from countries where have tiny Kizomba communities.
And those guys are so much trash at its peak.
There were a few times my female students asked me if it’s ok to take private lessons with these guys. That is normal. Even if they are just regular dancers (not qualify as Kizomba dance instructors), taking some new and fresh lessons of new types of dance is always good 😀
However, these guys are always go steps further by asking the girls come to their private places to learn after teaching them one or two lessons. At that time, I usually told my students that they should force those guys to rent a studio to do lessons for more professional approach, and they should put their caution on at anytime.
The main point is that the chances of guys who take advantage of Kizomba to sleep with girls is high. It is real and still happening.
Again, my post is not to strike Kizomba and convince anybody. These are personal ideas and views from what I see, feel, and experience. Therefore, I don’t like to touch Kizomba 😀 I know Kizomba is a trends now. People are crazy at it.
But not for me, and I believe that there are a lot of folks who have the same views as mine. In fact, I am glad that they really have the same views and thoughts, because we have been talking a lot about not liking Kizomba. None of them dance Kizomba. Even we all dance Salsa & Bachata for over 15 years.
However, who cares? As long as you love it, dance Kizomba and make more effort to get rid of these bad individuals 🙂
Also, this post: 6 misconceptions about Kizomba provided quite a lot of useful information for new Kizomba dancers. You can have a check. Yet, for me, it needs more than a post to change my points of view :3